What is Canadian Thanksgiving without a post about gratitude, what you’re thankful for etc? This shit practically could write itself (1. coffee, 2. heels…..) however my post today isn’t going to be a “Top Ten” or “Countdown” of things I am thankful for this season. This post is a reality check, and a writing on bringing yourself back to a happier, healthier place through gratitude.
Our world is selfish. That is, our modern, rich, first world countries are selfish. We take and buy and want more on a regular basis. Got a great job? Oh but I need the promotion right away? Got a new top? Oh, but I can’t afford it in every colour so I must suck. Don’t look like the models on Instagram? Gotta go buy something to fix that so I can be better looking. Notice it is all about “I”. Yes there are BEAUTIFUL humanitarian efforts out there, however my gripe with those is that sometimes (more often than not) you get to put your name up on display, change your Facebook photo with a “stand for Paris” filter, or advertise online about your current race you are running, asking for pledges. While I know the principal of marketing where you have to get something out of it, it is like we feel a need for the world to THANK us for our contributions. (mind you if people got an award every time they held the door open for someone with an arm full of stuff maybe they’d do it more often….). The question remains, as we band together to do these amazing things, is it more important to take a selfie or reflect on the amazing life we currently have?
Gratitude and actively seeking out the good in your day can really alter your perspective, and make it easier to get up in the morning. For example, switching industries has been very tough for me. I am pretty much the newbie in every meeting since I have the least experience, and oftentimes struggle through. However when work is tough and I find myself ugly-crying in the elevator at the end of the day I get it together after and think about how lucky I am. I get to change industries while others are stuck in a world they hate due to necessity. The chance I have been given is once in a lifetime. So EVEN when the day sucks, I am still so thankful for getting my shot. Pretty sweet right?
Moving past ME and my ambitions though, I am also grateful for the ability to influence others lives in a positive way. The internet is a huge platform to allow each of us to connect and make someone’s day a little brighter from a million miles away. It also allows us to band together, and create changes in the world through connecting over similar interests. Then there is the ability we all have to simply smile at someone in the hallway, and change the trajectory of their day. That is a pretty amazing power, and one I am grateful to have and put into practice.
So how can you start being grateful in a world that keeps telling you that what you have is not good enough? You buckle down and get serious about your gratitude. First, start with things you are simply thankful for and write them down. Selfish or not, you have to start somewhere, and writing things down can solidify them. Now, begin to think about how you can integrate this into your routine. Once a week? Once a day? Start where you need to just like a work out. Take time every weekend to write down what you are grateful for that happened to you that week, the things in your home you love, etc. Over time, you will notice you are writing for awhile and it will be beneficial to write everyday. This stems from the idea to take time to reflect. If you have a quiet moment, think of what you are grateful for. Make a small list, and then return to daydreaming, it will become habit.
This all being said, sometimes we can feel lost when we embark on a new adventure, so below are some quick tips to starting.
- Start with things you own ie: your favourite pair of shoes, laptop, anything you get joy from. Just be grateful you own it!
- Next try being grateful for something in your town.
- Next try listing out people in your life you are grateful for.
- Next list out qualities about yourself you are grateful for.
- Next list things in the world you are grateful for (specific countries you took a trip in, anything like that).
- Finally, and most importantly, every time you reflect on gratitude, think of WHY you are grateful for it. This will help solidify the positive and really, truly make you see how lucky you are.
Have a fantastic day all! I hope you feel #thankful, #grateful, and #blessed, and will use practicing gratitude to bring more sunshine to your day!
PS- Here is a great 30 day challenge to get you started! Let me know how you are doing, and if you want to see my 30 day challenge follow me on Instagram @businessbasic !