Hitting RESET on your dreams; the pain and the progress of Starting Over

I have come to realize that one of the only ways to grow is to get a little vulnerable, acknowledge what has happened, and hit reset on your dreams. No I don’t mean wipe them away entirely, I mean a reset. This could come in a number of forms, but generally for me it comes with asking myself a few questions;

  1. Is my dream really what I want, and in line with who I want to be?
  2. Is this action getting me closer to my desired dream?
  3. Should I look into another way to get myself there?
  4. Will this make me happier in the long term?
    and most importantly…
  5. Should I simply Start Over?

Despite my final question using the word “simply”, starting over is, in my experience one of the hardest things to do. Think about it, you poured time and effort into something, shared your enthusiasm with others, and loved when they said how excited they were for you. After countless small fixes, committing things to memory, whatever it is you had to do, when you have to start over, it usually means you didn’t get the result you were seeking.

My most recent reset conundrum has come from a test called the CFA Level 1, for the Chartered Financial Analyst Designation. Getting into the financial world is a dream I am actively working towards, and the CFA is a major stepping stone to get there. The test is quite the beast, an all day affair that only 43% of the writers pass, requiring a recommended 300 hours of study time. When I pulled the trigger by hitting the “submit registration” button and paid over a grand to write this test, it felt like my world opened up. I told everyone how excited I was, I logged 375 study hours, and pushed myself. I was ready to reap the rewards of passing, and chronicled my experience to friends and family. There was nowhere to hide, I was doing this.

Then, I wrote it. It came and went, and I sat waiting for results for the month. When they came and I saw the dreaded “we regret to inform you”, numbness took over my body. I lied to people and said I hadn’t gotten my results yet. Bringing yourself to the point of admitting you have to start over is exhausting and I just couldn’t do it. The worst part of all? I was SO CLOSE to passing. How could I tell people?

One of the hardest things about starting over is being afraid  of the judgement received from others.  Often, when we don’t reach our goals the first time around, we fear people will think we have failed, or see us as less. I assure you that the act of starting over is one of the bravest things you can do.

Before I accepted that I’d have to start over I took some time to “mourn the loss”. I let myself be disappointed, I let myself overanalyze (albeit I should have put a cap on this) and I let myself be just plain angry about it all, mascara running down my face, the whole 9 yards. I definitely took took long in this stage, and that is something I will work on moving forward.

After accepting my fate, I assessed the above previously mentioned questions, and determined YES I 100% had to start over. I have to suck it up, put on the big girl heels and write the damn  test again. So here we are. I am trying to amp myself up before I hit submit to register, but I am ready to give it another go.

The key way I got to this place was by thinking of all of the other times I have started over in my life. School, artwork, business, job hunt, I have always come out with the right situation for me. Moral of this is that dang universe is always listening and knows what is best.

So I am going to start over, learn from my previous mistakes and kick the crap out of the CFA level 1 this June to the best of my ability. If I keep doing the same thing over and over, I won’t get anywhere, but by taking stock of some of my less intelligent choices (like just studying when I was “feeling it” vs actually carving out some time) this can be a real game changer. So let’s wipe the slate clean folks, learn from our mistakes and start over.

Maybe you think I am lame. Maybe you don’t think I am smart enough to pass. Maybe you think I should cut my losses, but I am not ready yet.

As mentioned in previous musings posts, I have overcome adversity and at this point I really don’t give a damn what you think. My head is out of the sand now, I am awake and I am determined.

Moral of the story, we all have to start over. It honestly can suck. Sometimes it guts us, torments us, and makes us feel like less of a person. In the end, those who start over instead of giving up are some of the strongest people in the world, and  become some of the most successful. So have a glass of wine, put on your pump up music, and start handling it. I may not be a finance professional yet but I sure as shit am closer than I was yesterday. When have you had to start over? Was it worth the pain? (I bet it was)

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Top 5 Quotes About Starting Over

So starting over….. it sometimes sucks. It even has a bad rep as many people consider starting over to be synonymous with failure. Straight up it is not.

Starting over is a chance to rebuild, learn, repair, and flourish, pushing to the result you truly deserve.

Later this week I will be releasing my starting over story, but I need some time to get it ready (and convince myself to push “publish”!)

In the mean time, I decided to go with my inner basic and provide you with some ~*~*~*~*~ Inspirational quotes~*~*~*~*~*~

Seriously, I am a sucker for powerful words so here are my favourite top 5 quotes about starting over.

 

 

 

Anyone else ready for an upgrade?

 

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Learning important business lessons from yoga…how downward facing dog can help you double-down on your professional life.

 

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Hand painted YOGA pose rocks @ OM on Locke

Last night I went to a workshop on “Eating for Energy” at a great local Hamilton, Ontario establishment called Om on Locke Street. I found that though I knew a lot of the points that were covered in the workshop my visit really started to make me think about the side of me that likes to explore yoga, clean eating and the “spiritual” side  of myself.

One of the things that really sparked my thoughts flying was when the Health and Nutrition coach Kim Ruzycki noted that one of the things that “Taking time for yourself”, was key to getting more energy.

Despite my usual mantra being “Namast’ay in bed” I do thoroughly enjoy yoga. Yoga draws parallels with fundamental lessons we need to be successful in business. Here are the top things yoga has taught me that I have found important in my career adventures.

 

  1. Patience is key.
    There are some difficult poses out there. Personally, I had crow pose when I was practicing more frequently, then I lost it…. it’s more of a “NO” pose now (seriously, I just fall over). There aren’t many balance poses a beginner yogi can master on the first shot, it takes patience, practice and commitment to the task. A little bit of work each time gets you there. This is the same in business. Right out of the gate you won’t always know the answer, the company’s process, or the right forecasting method for that project. If you have determination and a bit of patience, you will become an indispensable asset. Stay teachable and all of a sudden everyone will ask YOU for advice, because you took the time to practice and master your craft.
  2. Comfort Zones get you nowhere.
    Such is true in networking, such is true in yoga. If you go to the same teacher and only want to do the same flow over and over again eventually you will become stagnant. In business, being open to the “art” of networking is key to survival. So many stories of ” someone who knew someone got the job” or “elevator pitches” leading to a crack at a tough project exist out there for a reason. It’s scary shit to try something new, but if you don’t you will be in the same place today you were 5 minutes, months and years ago. Take control. Further to this point, the best freakin’ buzzword ever Innovation is a key component in both yoga and business. It is pretty obvious that without innovators in business we wouldn’t have new products, new inventions, or new ways of doing things. Hell, you wouldn’t be reading this blog on a computer, because without innovation we wouldn’t have those! Innovation is a cornerstone in yoga also, through which you can deepen your practice. Changing up breathing patterns, flow sequences, and mantras can yield surprising results so long as you stay open. In addition, our minds are powerful and need to be fed new information on a regular basis. Get the fuck out there already!
  3. You are your greatest asset, take care of yourself.
    Much of the time yoga is viewed as a restorative addition into life. You take time to sit with yourself, your thoughts, and dive deeper into your own rhythms. Yoga also is a compliment to a healthy lifestyle, and can improve both strength and flexibility. In the end, you cannot do yoga without your body, so it is important to take care of it. The same goes for business. Performance is hindered when we are unhealthy, tired, and unable to find passion. Literally you have one body, and one brain with all of those amazing business ideas so take care of it! Eat something green, take a deep breath, and take over the world.
  4. Stay authentic.
    When two identical candidates are left on the table of a hiring manager, oftentimes it comes down to a gut feeling of who would best get along with the team. As humans we are drawn to authenticity, and if you are not being your true self, trust me it will come out in the end. Stick to your principles, back up ideas you really believe in, and be yourself. I promise you will love your career so much more. Furthermore, as people discover inauthenticity, they won’t trust you, ruining your chances of imparting change in your chosen industry.  Yoga also requires us to stay authentic, as we answer to ourselves. We need to be honest about our successes and challenges to learn new abilities and deepen our practice.

Some other key learnings that coexist with yoga and business:

  1. Group energy can be truly awakening (don’t be afraid of teams!)
  2. Start strong
  3. Quiet time is some of the best creative time
  4. Clarify your intent, then set your goals

 

Thanks for reading!

 

 

Interested in some wellness coaching? Give Kim a try! She actually CAME from a corporate background, how cool is that?? Find her at her blog, Picky Diet.
http://pickydiet.com/

Interested in OM?

Visit them at https://www.omonlocke.ca/
They have some killer shirts that I am in love with such as the one pictured below, and host fantastic workshops for the community!

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Inner Fire brand yoga tank @ OM on Locke

 

ALERT TO ALL FELLOW BASICS (and anyone else who gives a shit) MERCURY IS IN RETROGRADE!

Today I posted on my Instagram (@businessbasic) a photo of yesterday’s wine because even though I have a list of blog topics to discuss, I couldn’t get those creative juices flowing. Well low and behold a new (yet already dear) friend of mine posted on Facebook today “Mercury in retrograde needs to retro-gtfo of here.” and everything just fell into alignment.

 

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I don’t know about anyone else but I have been in a funk. Nothing is working right, I can not seem to remember an appointment to save my life, I have been down in the dumps, and plans keep crashing down around me. WHAT GIVES?!

Fucking Mercury, the sneaky little SOB went into retrograde on the 12th of August. Why does this matter? Well for the planet itself it means that there is a perceived reversal in the planet’s West to East movement through the stars and other celestial bodies (1). This means that instead of moving around the sun in the same way all the other planets do, it does the exact opposite. Why is it perceived? Well it isn’t actually changing at all, but the way you would see Mercury move around if you were standing on Earth does. Mercury’s orbit is smaller than Earth’s, and also faster. When it catches up with our planet’s orbit, and subsequently passes it, the illusion that Mercury has changed direction commences. (1)  Neat eh?

So what the heck does this have to do with me and every other latte sipping, yoga pant wearing basic babe freaking out and WHY am I now sitting here as I write this listing out everything that has happened that can be attributed to this perceived shift to my boyfriend like a nut?

If you’ve heard of astrology, then you know that Mercury in retrograde is a constant yet unwanted house guest that passes through our lives, drinks all our almond milk, steals our favourite top, and then bails. In astrology Mercury rules communication, clear thinking, travel and truth so when it looks like its going backwards, our lives turn upside down(2).  People cannot seems to get where they need to be, say what they need to say, and our devices? Yeah they don’t want to communicate either. Not to mention communication with the self can face a serious breakdown. Some things you may notice at this time:

  • Traffic SUCKS more than usual
  • You lose all your data for that big project
  • Electronics, appliances, or vehicles just keep breaking down
  • Flights are delayed or cancelled
  • You forget important documents like a passport or health card at home
  • If you’re like me…. you show up on the wrong day to see the doctor even though you had it in your planner
  • You want to get out your mermaid blanket (wait…. you don’t have one of those? You are missing out), switch on the Netflix and hermit away from the world
  • You feel stuck in a rut that you just cannot escape

So what can we do in this time of confusion? Below are some tips to make the best out of the crazy time we face.

 

  1. BACK UP YOUR DATA. Seriously just do it. Save yourself the headache, and triple save your hard work on that project or else you may find it lost before the deadline.
  2. TAKE A DEEP BREATH. This rut will not last forever, this is not the normal you. Use this time to breath, reflect, and be thankful for some of the things that have gone great recently. In addition if you find you just are not able to get your point across during a discussion (or argument) take a breather, and calmly state your point again. You’d be surprised how much conflict can be avoided when this is done.
  3. REVISIT OLD PROJECTS. As Mercury “moves backwards” it is a good time to circle back to unfinished business. You will find yourself more able to pick up where you left off, and cross those things off of your to do list. Don’t have any? Reach out to old friends you have not talked to in a long time. The backwardness of this communication period facilitates those conversations more easily.
  4. JUST ACCEPT THAT THIS IS A CRUMMY TIME AND TRIPLE CHECK EVERYTHING. I know as a busy businesswoman I am often too busy to read all of the details as I am off to take over the world. Now more than any other time however, lines can get crossed. Making a big purchase? Read every inch of the warranty to make sure if something is wrong you can bring that sucker back. New contract? (though you should read it anyway) read it over and make sure that when you sign on the dotted line it is exactly what you signed up for. Going away? Write a list of what you need to bring, and check each item off the list as you pack it. Then check again and put another checkmark beside that item on the list. You aren’t going anywhere without a passport.
  5. EMBRACE IT. This is traditionally a time where creative people thrive due to different patterns of thinking and new directions popping up all over the place. Tune out the complaints from other people by taking your creative side for a spin. Want to paint? GO FOR IT! Rearrange your office space? Absolutely. OR see if you can generate some great new business ideas, flesh them out really well, and when you’re good and ready, grab a coffee and dominate the industry. Hang in there, you’ve got this.

 

 

Citations

(1)Kubota, T. (2016, May 09). Mercury in retrograde: What it really means. Retrieved August 17, 2017, from https://www.cbsnews.com/news/the-truth-behind-mercury-retrograde-affect-human-lives/

(2)Mercury Retrograde: How to Survive A 3-Week Communication Crisis. (2017, August 15). Retrieved August 17, 2017, from http://astrostyle.com/mercury-retrograde/

Real Talk: The Secret to Success in Business (Hint- it isn’t a 4.0)

As previously spoken about in my last musings  article, sometimes we feel behind. It is important to remember we are exactly where we need to be, however when advice from “experts” suggests you’re not…. what do you do?

My first chosen passion is to break into the Bay Street lifestyle and work in finance after graduating my MBA.

My second is to live an amazing life and help others along the way, which is why I own my own online business. We will chat about this another time though, as this post focuses on passion number 1: being a professional woman in Capital Markets.

Full disclosure: I DO NOT HAVE A 4.0 GPA. Not at all. It does NOT mean I am not smart by any means, I really have trouble on tests. Put me in the job however, and I guarantee I will knock it out of the park (or your money back :p) because  I learn best hands on.  That being said, industry standard is to have an MBA and be a superhuman,  so I am at least trying to achieve half of that. My secret weapon is so cliché you might cringe a little.

Are you ready?

The secret to success in business without a 4.0 is:

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Yeah that’s right you heard me, good old fashioned confidence. So today I am going to share 5 ways to pump yourself up before that big interview/life changing sales pitch. Keep in mind that YES you do need some level of ability. If you KNOW deep down you can do the job, then use these tips to remind yourself you are the B-O-M-B est #bossbitch out there and you absolutely can do this.

  1. Write it out The name of the game with this tactic is anticipation. I have a special notebook I write everything in for interviews, meetings, and presentations. I also have a section in this notebook where I have written a bunch of quotes I find inspiring or that amp me up for the task at hand.In this notebook I anticipate questions/what ifs and let my mind go on a wild brainstorm. THEN I pull out most likely questions or ones I am most worried about,  and write out my answers to them. By doing this I have the ability to review my answers before the big show, as well as adjust for any gaps that might leave a client/interviewer confused with my initial answer.Sometimes the questions I have are a bit crazy, but that is ok. Let yourself get creative here, and then you will feel confident enough to answer any curve balls thrown at you.
  2. Mirror timeAs much as I don’t want to admit this, practice does indeed make perfect. I do personally perform better under pressure, but I never EVER wing it. My biggest challenge recently was securing a Co-op placement as part of my degree. Going over potential questions and answers, and really perfecting the answer to “tell me about yourself” which is probably my least favourite question in the world of interviewing definitely was a key to success. I settle in, close the door to the room I am in, and post my answer that I had written out up on the mirror. Next I read it a few times in my head, then read it off the page out loud.Finally, I take the paper down, and look myself in the eyes, and answer the question. “tell me about yourself”. This also has worked for giving presentations, in which the question is “why should I do this business?/join  your team” for my side hustle, or “what is important about this analysis” when I am in the boardroom.

    Believe me, we are our own worst critics. If you can get over the self doubt you see in the mirror when answering the tough questions, you will come across as cool, calm, collected and competent when communicating in a professional setting. This makes you trustworthy, and your point comes across clearly.

  3. Dress for warEspecially in my industry, I really do NOT mean that you require a trip to the army surplus store to feel good enough to seize the day. I mean wear something appropriate, that makes you feel like a badass. TBH, if I could wear my dad’s old “YES” tour shirt and my high-waisted lace up jeans into these situations all the time I would, however, I cannot. Instead I focus on what makes me feel like a CEO.
    With three “standard” interview/presentation outfits for the financial world, I simply have to choose skirt or pants, and colour  and away I go. I slip on my favourite heels strike a very silly pose in the mirror, usually take a selfie of how much of a #bossbabe I am that day and head out the door. This makes me feel good so I do it. I also look polished and professional, but stay true to my own personal style. When you feel good, it shows through, wear something professional and comfortable that you absolutely love to see yourself in.
  4. Designated freak out timeAlso a great tactic for test taking, I let myself freak out. I allot roughly 15 minutes to thinking about all of the what-ifs, potential terrible things that could happen, obsessively checking the weather/public transit/route I plan to take, re-save my pitch deck/excel sheet 50 times and then I stop. As someone who has a mood disorder, I have come to accept that I can’t bury my anxiety away, so I may as well work with the cards I have been dealt. Between this and the writing tactic mentioned in point number 1, I  am able to get the majority of my nerves out before the big show. Sometimes I need a bit of extra motivation to stop this freakout time. I find promising yourself a small treat (ie; that super expensive green juice you just can’t get enough of, or a latte, or a new book) if you stop at the 15 minute mark can help keep goals in sight. Sometimes, after the big event is over,  you don’t even need that treat that you promised yourself in the first place.
  5. Zen ritualIt has taken me a few years to get this right, and I always adapt it as I change and grow but having what I have dubbed my “zen ritual” is a great way to ground myself, and remind myself just how amazing I am.  Part of this is to smash an intense workout the day before, and listen to some badass, pump up music. That can be whatever it is for you. The reason why I workout so intensely the day before (if I have the time) is to only focus on content for the day of.I am not a morning person so if I have a choice, I like to schedule interviews/ big meetings etc 11 AM or later. Then, I once again use music, and my ever-present favourite, coffee to get my mind on track. Getting dressed and ready I pull out the pump up music again, get really excited, and go over my elevator pitch for the day, and once ready, head out the door.  At this point I use either classical or acoustic music to bring myself to a more calm headspace. I try to arrive early for meetings to sit with my coffee, hopefully in a space I like the best such as a café, or my desk, and read those quotes and affirmations in the back of my book. I sit with either a citrine or white quartz crystal in my hand, and really concentrate on knowing that I am the best person for the job or that I worked really hard on this pitch and I know it is good. I personally find having the crystal as a tactile relaxant very useful, but you may not. I choose citrine or white quartz to promote clarity, manifest abundance, promote optimism, promote success, and be present in the moment. Then, I know I am ready to take on the task. (Hey guys, I warned you in the About section there might be some crystal healing in here 😉 )

After many co-op terms, many presentations, and amazing feedback from my mentors the one thing that has rang true is that when I have confidence, I preform extremely well. As someone who struggles with confidence I find a need to boost myself up before diving in, and that is totally ok. Hopefully some of my above tactics give you some ideas about harnessing your confidence to crush it in the business world. Always remember however, stay humble. Don’t be a jerk and act like you know it all, or your answer is the only right one. Sometimes the greatest learnings can come from crushing the presentation, and then getting valuable feedback.

Any questions? Hit me up ❤

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Product Review: Cookies for Breakfast?! Hell yeah!

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Lenny & Larry’s Complete Cookie in Snickerdoodle aka: BREAKFAST 😀

 

Quick product review comin’ at ya!

I am not a breakfast person, and have a lot of trouble getting food down in the morning, but it is nice to have something in your tummy before you rush your boss butt out the door.  Also full disclosure: I am allergic to eggs, lactose intolerant, and eat vegan 5/7 days a week so I am a bit of a pain when it comes to breakfast.

Enter: my saviour pictured above, Lenny & Larry’s complete cookie! I LOVE IT! Not only did this fantastic cinnamon snickerdoodle taste like heaven in a soft, chewy cookie, the complete cookie kept me satisfied until lunch. Like anything though, read the label to make sure this meets your nutritional needs. I wouldn’t have this for breakfast everyday but if I am in a rush and looking for a treat I would definitely reach for one of these bad boys! Plus, what basic b doesn’t want to have cookies for breakfast? Be honest with yourself.

Pros:

  • vegan
  • 16g protein per cookie
  • 8g fat per cookie
  • kept me full
  • tasted like a dream
  • can order online
  • no artificial sweeteners (you’re sweet enough already!)
  • many other flavour available (birthday cake, lemon poppyseed, white macadamia nut… the list goes on)
  • not chalky like a protein bar

Cons:

  • price – expensive if buying individually
  • not gluten free (has wheat gluten)
  • calories – 360 per cookie… then again… it IS a cookie for breakfast
  • may not meet your macro needs

Overall; totally worth it if you’re craving sweets and in a rush. I recommend you give these babies a try, especially if you  want to cut your morning coffee and a donut routine!
Want more info? Visit Lenny & Larry’s at https://www.lennylarry.com/

Note: This post is not sponsored by Lenny & Larry’s, it is my own review

When will I feel like I am “adulting” right?

Against everyone’s best advice I decided to go straight into my MBA.

My mentors said “work first, it allows you to apply to more schools”, “you can always go later”, “maybe you can get a company to pay for you to go if you start out working”, “most people in an MBA have career experience”. It was almost like they were afraid to see “their little girl” grow up, or worried since that really was the norm that going against the grain would hurt me in the end.

I went for it anyway, and made my dream come true. So why do I so feel behind in my life? Why do I feel some days like I have accomplished nothing at all? Why does the word “adult” scare me so much that I have turned it into a verb – adulting so I can make jokes about how bad I am at it?

Is it because friends who didn’t make the same choices as me are buying homes, while I am buying courses? Is it because I still get anxiety about spending money out, while others don’t even think twice? Is it because friends are getting married and having children and my boyfriend and I, together for so long, live with his parents?

Yes.

and no.

It is all of those things, and it is the pressure society puts on young people to  be freakin’ super humans. With Top 30 under 30, next big scientist, started 5 tech companies worth a billion  bucks, sat on 5 honour rolls, double degree, yada yada yada McGee being the norm in the news these days it is no wonder people feel behind even when working towards their goals. We are always told that when you hit certain milestones (house, first raise, car, wedding, kids) THEN you are doing it right. What about the first time I truly beat my own mental demons? What about the first time I ever asked for help at school? What about pushing past what I keep telling myself I can’t do, to do it 5x better than anyone else? What if the creativity just won’t come?

Well the answer to my constant worry is that I need to make a conscious choice to get out of this crazy funk, which at times can be completely debilitating. A big case of “well if it’s not happening fast enough maybe it shouldn’t happen it all and I will just hide in bed”. This is just not productive to achieving your dreams, and what I need to do, and you might too, is to give yourself permission.

You are the writer of your own destiny, the author of your own novel, blah blah blah. YOU make the decision to get up in the morning, or sleep in because you need it. YOU decide if your body needs R&R or if you need to pull an all nighter to let your imagination run wild (or crunch out a paper). So I have decided after much introspection to give myself that permission. Permission to be wherever the fuck I want to be and need to be. I will be showing up as best I can, with as much as I can, and doing life my way, to be the best badass business woman I know I can be. I deserve it, don’t you?

If it’s not the fucking time right now, it’s just not the time. EXPERIENCE your life. Do it in the order that makes sense for you. You will find yourself at peace, and more motivated to succeed. Once you finally do succeed, that glass of champagne is going to be the best tasting glass you ever fucking had in your life, because you did it in the best way for you. You are not behind.

 

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You are in the exact place, at the exact speed you need to be. If it doesn’t feel right, move to where you belong, and then list out the gratitude you feel when you get there.

Basic quote of the day :”You are exactly where you need to be”

Remember it. Be thankful for it. Push yourself to achieve exactly what you  want to. You’re not “adulting” wrong at all. You are exactly where you need to be. 

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BusinessBasic Product Review: Hidden Crown Hair Extensions!

 

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These extensions make me feel awesome and ready to take on any challenge!

In the quintessential definition of “basic bitch” I have always wanted beautiful, disney princess-level mermaid locks. That being said, the experiments I have conducted on my hair since my early high school days finally took their toll and in April of this year I had to make the decision to chop my hair. 

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My bleach blonde Mother of Dragons hair at the World Biomaterials Congress 2016

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

After channelling my inner badass and maintaining Daenerys Targaryen level blonde for a solid amount of time, I switched to rose gold until securing my first professional co-op placement in my MBA. Though the rose gold was subtle, it was not the most welcomed colour in a hospital administrator role.

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Rose Gold hair, January 2017

 

 

 

Furthermore, having no experience in the industry, I really wanted to make a good impression on my new potential professional network, and bleached my hair back to its natural blonde state (not white blonde). After all of this turmoil my hair gave up. It started splitting right up the shaft, clumps coming out every time I ran a brush through it. No matter what mask I used or supplements I took, I could not reverse the damage I had done. Fried hair is NOT cute, not at all. I looked frazzled at all times, and gave off the impression that I could not handle the tasks assigned to me due to my disheveled look. Though I am a HUGE believer than anyone is capable no matter what they look like, I also recognize that we are judged on our appearance every day. Between that, and being a newbie to this  professional world, and seeking to break into the finance and banking industry it was time for a change.

Then the chop came, and my confidence plummeted along with my dead ends straight to the floor at my hairdressers’ place. She did a beautiful job with a professional cut but I no longer felt like myself. It may seem silly, but we all have our confidence boosters and hair is a big one for me. Women look amazing with whatever hair makes them feel best!

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My reaction after chopping my hair: DA FUQ?!

After being lectured on the potential risks of gluing, bonding, taping and clipping extensions to gain back some confidence, my hairdresser with a brilliant stroke of genius suggested crown extensions. Removable, and not bonded in any way to my current hair, this style could easily provide me with length, while protecting my current locks as I grew them. Since no weight is placed on the hair shaft, there is very minimal breakage risk to my own hair.

Upon launching into a flurry of research I found Hidden Crown hair extensions online, and saw that they offered free colour matching. Honestly, I am a huge proponent of online shopping so this sat super well with me as I could have a yoga pants and tea party in bed while fulfilling my princess hair dreams.  Hidden Crown provided an extremely speedy response, and even suggested which set of extensions was best based on my description of my hair type. I was thoroughly impressed with the customer service, as well as the resources provided online with regards to placing and styling the hair piece, and decided to go for it.

In short, OH MY GOD best decision I have ever made! 100% human remy hair (highest quality on the market), the Hidden Crown Daydream weft matched my blonde perfectly. I may have gone a bit crazy on length, but watching the styling videos has helped me turn this amazing new addition to my life into both a business and pleasure staple piece. Below I am going to outline some pros and cons of the extensions for easy reading.

 

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Princess hair side shot

PROS of using HiddenCrown:

  • Wide range of colours available
  • Can dye darker if need be
  • Well made and secured to lace weft
  • Speedy delivery
  • Low maintenance
  • Style like your own hair
  • Many tutorials provided
  • Considering bonded extensions can be thousands of dollars I considered these an affordable option
  • 100% REMY human hair: hair cuticles remain intact for a natural look
  • Double drawn or tapered options for both thin and thick haired users
  • If secured with bobby pins, can be worn during a workout (but it gets fucking hot, so I would not recommend this)
  • Lowest price per gram of hair ($1.82) compared to top competitors
  • Colour matching service very accurate
  • Clear wire is practically invisible on the head

 

CONS of using HiddenCrown:

  • Price point may be high for some
  • Must remove for sleeping/swimming/exercise
  • Must adjust fitting to style into high bun/ponytail
  • Bead that is used to secure the wire at a specified width is difficult to clamp down without using pliers
  • Cannot be bleached lighter
  • Possibility that the hairpiece may fall out as it is not secured directly to hair shaft
  • Having to put them in every morning does not take long, but is an extra step in the routine
  • You MUST wash and condition these yourself about once a month or every other depending on use. Since the hair is not attached to the shaft, natural oils produced do not permeate the extensions, and they get ratty over time. Just take care of them and you’ll be fine.

 

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Hidden Crown even whips up into a comfortable ponytail for casual exploration days!

Overall I wanted to thank HiddenCrown immensely for giving me my confidence back, and providing an amazing product that can be used again and again with excellent results. Though hair this long may not scream CEO to everyone, it does to me. I am on the ball and have the confidence to take on new business and personal challenges. No matter what my hair looks like, it is polished and I am ready to take my next co-op term by storm!

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Hair long AF and feeling on point!

Visit HiddenCrown at https://www.hiddencrownhair.com/halo-styles/ for your own beautiful new look. Note: HiddenCrown DID NOT contact me for this review. I just am a happy, confident, basic business woman and customer!